Before using any of these tips, remember this.
You may feel awkward or uncomfortable about the way you think you look when you’re bouncing off your man, but your man would find you more sexier than ever in the controlling girl on top position.
When you’re on top, you’re the one controlling the sex, so don’t get carried away.
You need to make your man feel like he’s playing a part too, and that’s the only way to enjoy great sex when you’re sitting over him.
Things to know when you’re on top
When you’re on top, there are a few precautions to keep in mind and a few things you need to know to make sex more enjoyable for both of you. Use these things-to-know to learn more about the sexy girl on top position.
It’s really tiring. Sitting on your guy and pounding on him or grinding circles around his member isn’t as simple as it sounds. It’s really tiring. You’re not lying down doing the missionary here. You’re jumping on and off all the time, and that involves a lot of your biggest muscles like the ones in your legs.
Every now and then, rest your hands on the sides of your man or place it over his chest so you can take the pressure off your legs. You’ll feel stronger and enjoy the girl on top position better.
Tie your hair. In the movies, watching a girl riding her boyfriend looks sexy, especially when she flicks her hair from one side to another with her hands. But it’s not so easy in real life. When you’re sweating in bed, your hair will stick to your face and annoy you.
Untied hair can be distracting to your boyfriend too. Every time you bend towards him to kiss him, he’ll have to deal with your big mane of hair that strikes his face and tickles him. Avoid all of that, just tie your hair and focus on the sex instead.
Don’t go too fast. It may seem exciting to bounce off him really fast, but you’ll get tired really fast. And most importantly, you’ll ruin the sex.
Think about it, great sex is all about the rhythm and the motion. Both of you have to feel in sync with each other to actually enjoy sex. If you move too aggressively, your man who’s lying down would never be able to keep up with you and he’ll end up feeling left out of the game because he won’t feel involved.
Foreplay when you’re on top. When you want to get on top, make him lie down on his back and stroke him all over. He’ll enjoy the attention because he really doesn’t have to do much here. Blow him or kiss him all around his member and turn him on. And once he’s fully ready, penetrate him. Take your time before sitting on him or he may end up losing his erection.
When your man’s lying down, he can’t stroke himself or control the way you move, and the unpredictability can make him lose his erection. It takes time to move in sync with each other when you’re on top. And until then, the erection you give him before penetration has to work its magic to keep him up.
He’s not as strong as you think. Really, your man’s member is really, really sensitive. It doesn’t have a bone even if he has a boner. When you’re on top of him, a lot of your weight rests around his member. Move around in new motions or adjust your position now and then. But don’t sit on him hard or move in quick, opposite directions all of a sudden, without any warning. You may end up fracturing him down there if you don’t take it easy!
Let him know you want to be on top. As soon as both of you feel in the mood, both of you will have a preconceived notion about what’s to come next. Almost always, the guy assumes he’ll be on top and prepares his mind for it.
But if you intend to get on top, let him know just how horny you are, and that you want to take the lead and get on top of him. By doing that, you won’t disappoint him because he’d know what to expect.
Read his signs. The person on top has the important task of gauging the sex and working towards making it better. They control the way the sex goes and how it ends. So when you’re using the girl on top position, you can have fun controlling your man. But at the same time, you need to read his signs so both of you can orgasm together.
If he seems to be distracted or in pain, slow down and see if it’s something you’re doing. Perhaps, you’re moving too aggressively and giving him a burn on his inner thighs. Or if he suddenly grabs you, stop moving your pelvis for a second to find out if he’s unable to hold on anymore. And most importantly, if his member starts throbbing inside you when you’re on top, he’s probably having a hard time holding himself back from blowing out, so slow down and help him get back his control or build yourself up to orgasm together.
The motions. You can move vertically up and down when you’re on top. You can go fast and quick or slow and deeper, or you can move around his member in slow circles. Indulge in any motions as long as it feels good.
But don’t jump between motions too quickly. Give enough time for your partner to relate to your moves and he can move in the opposite direction and connect better with you, which will ensure that the sex is better.
Ten ways to make the girl on top position feel more sexy
Now that you know the right way to have sex when you’re on top, here are ten sexy tips to look sexier and seduce your man into having better sex.
Play with your hair. Now and then, loosen your hair up and use your fingers to play with it carelessly when your man’s looking at you. You can pretend like you can’t notice him by turning your face away from him if you feel awkward. It’ll definitely arouse him a lot more just watching you enjoy yourself.
Cup your breasts. All guys love watching a girl play with her breasts. As you bounce off him, cup your breasts with your hands and move them against the sides of your body. Additionally, you can take his hands and place it on your breasts as you grind around him.
Add in an oral. When you’re on top of him, stop now and then and slide downwards to his knees. And bend down and lick his member. It’ll turn your guy on a lot just watching you lick him up when he’s so wet around his member.
You can also take his member out while having sex and move your hip closer towards his face so he can give you some action too.
Dominate him. If you’re on top, you know you’re in control. But don’t just think it, do something about it. Treat him like you’re in control of him, order him to do something, or yell at him. It’ll make you feel more powerful and sexy. And your man will feel more aroused getting dominated by you at the same time.
Enjoy his body. What does your man do to your body when he’s on top? Do the same things to his body. Being on top is all about shedding your inhibitions and feeling in control. Lick his nipples, nibble his ears, grab his butt as you straddle him and do anything else that makes you feel good. Your man may actually be surprised and get turned on by seeing this new side of yours.
Dirty talk. Don’t just bounce up and down the whole way. You’ll tire yourself off or the constant thwacking will end up boring both of you. Get close to him and gasp something sexy in his ears. Whisper something dirty that’ll turn both of you on more. And in the heat of the moment, let your imagination run wild and dirty.
Control him. Lean into him, grab his hands and push it behind his head or above his head. Hold his hands in yours and ride him harder. If you want to take it a notch higher in the sexy scale, tie his hands to the bedpost or even handcuff him or tie his hands together with a scarf. It’s all the little things that’ll make him feel more helpless, which will make the whole thing feel more sexy.
Get rough. When you’re having wild, passionate sex, it’s obvious that you’ll feel hornier than other days. Use your nails against his chest and watch him moan in painful delight. Bite him and leave a few traces of love bites around his body or just cover his eyes with a blindfold and let him grope around your body as you get rough with him from top.
Show yourself off. Getting on top is all about losing your inhibition and feeling more confident about yourself. As you grind your pelvis against his, lean back and stretch your body. You’ll be able to reveal all, and you’d look a lot sexier too. And your man will definitely have a hard time keeping his hands off your body as you show yourself off.
Let him hold you. Staying on top and moving aggressively against him for more than a few minutes can leave you exhausted. To avoid feeling weak with fatigue and ruining the mood, give your man some control now and then.
Grab both his hands and place it against your waist as you move up and down on him. And press his hands firmly against your body so he gets the hint to lift you up and down along with your own momentum. It’ll help ease your sex workout and make him feel involved too. And by doing that, both of you can actually last longer and enjoy the girl on top position for much longer.