Research has proven that women are very physical beings. Everything that they think and feel is on a much deeper level than it is for men. Part of this is because women have a natural caring and tender nature about them. Their instincts allow them to be more in tune with the body language and needs of those around them. This is the reason that a girl is drawn to an upset child while men don’t even notice and the reason that a girl is conscious enough to bring you a sandwich, even when you didn’t ask for it but you were hungry. All these “little” things that women do are actually their female psyche hard at work all the time to be in tune with their surroundings. Crazy right?
So how can guys compete with this.
The answer is in your kiss. Men hold the power of a great kiss. It’s one of the things you are blessed with. Men can make a women feel one thousand different emotions just by pressing their lips to hers. You want your kiss to dry her tears, move mountains and offer her comfort – all at the same time. Women have pretty lofty expectations of a kiss. We are going to de-bunk these and help you meet the reasonable ones in the next chapter. But before we can get there, let’s talk about what your kiss is saying to her.
There are dozens of different kinds of kisses. Just think of all the things/people you have kissed in your life time. Obviously the way you kiss your mom is different from the way you kiss your sister, which is different from the way you kiss your dog, which is (hopefully) different from the way you kiss the women you love. The way you kiss and the type of kiss you give, conveys a different message.
The Forehead Kiss
Kissing someone on the forehead can have multiple meanings, but it all depends on who you are kissing. When you kiss your daughter or your sister on the forehead, it is a simple way of saying that you love them. However, when you kiss a girl who is physically and sexually attracted to you on the forehead, it has a whole new meaning. We know that women are naturally physical creatures. They thrive on touch from another human being, especially from a lover. Kissing her on the forehead tells her that she is important to you, that you love her, that your world is complete with her.
All of this is being said with a simple kiss. Can you believe it.
The forehead kiss might be the single most important type of a kiss you can give to a girl. It is far more intimate and sends a deeper meaning than any other type of kiss. Yes, this even includes passionate, love-making kisses. To a girl, being kissed on the forehead is like stepping into a romantic movie of their choice, where the man is committed and devoted to everything that she has to offer. When you do kiss a girl on the forehead, there is a way that you do it which indicates it is more than a simple adoring kiss that you would give your mom or sister. In order to properly kiss a girl on the forehead, you need to pull her just close enough to you that her head slightly tucks under your chin. With your arms wrapped around her and hers around you (preferably), you kiss her on the forehead with a gentle force like you want that kiss to stay there forever. If you can master this one technique, you will win over the girl of your dreams forever and she will always know that she is your one and only. After all, that is what most girls want to feel when they are kissed.
The Cheek Kiss
Public displays of affection are fairly taboo today. In general, no one wants to see other people making out and on the brink of tearing their clothes off. As a result, more couples are using the cheek kiss as a way to say “Hey, I’m here. I love you.” when in a public situation. Consider the cheek kiss more of a kiss of adoration. It doesn’t hold any real meaning to a girl other than you saying hello to her in a public place. Is there a right way and a wrong way to do it? Of course. A kiss on the cheek should be subtle, gentle and welcomed. It is appropriate in all situations where you are not directly interrupting her. If you sense that your kiss is going to be sloppy, slobbery or in any way intrusive – then it is not the right time. Always use your best judgment
The Regular Kiss
The regular kiss is exactly what you think it is. It is that simple kiss on the lips that you probably do every time you say “hello” or “goodbye” to your partner. As long as you pucker up, there is no real wrong way to do this type of kiss. It is simple and to the point. Also, there is no real emotion connected to this kiss. Consider the regular kiss and equivalent to brushing your teeth. It is part of your routine. You probably do it so often that you don’t even remember doing it on a day to day basis. That is the regular kiss.
Are women looking for magic in a regular kiss? Always. But that is unrealistic.
You can give a girl what she is looking for in every kiss by presenting the right body language. When you are about to kiss her, be sure that her body is close to yours. You want both of you to feel like you are almost touching. This is the difference between a great kiss and a kiss that is just ordinary. Closing the distance between you and her will give your girl a sense of security and warmth that she cannot find with someone she doesn’t love.
Passionate kissing speaks volumes about how you really feel about a girl. This includes French kissing which is possibly the most passionate type of kissing there is. If you are not aware, French kissing is when you and your girl stick your tongue in each other’s mouths. It falls into the passionate kissing category because typically it is a pre-cursor to or exists during sex. The thing about passionate kissing is that it is just what women want when they are behind closed doors with you. A girl wants you to pull her close and hold her tight to your body. She wants to feel you kissing her all the way down to her core. Passionate kissing creates a sexual connection unlike anything else. It is the single way in which you are telling her that you want her, all of her and you never want to stop. Now that we have covered the different types of kisses, it is time to dive into what you are doing wrong, how you can do it right, how to improve your technique and how you can be the best kisser she’s ever had.
Things Men Do to Ruin a Kiss
Believe it or not guys, you do quite a few things that can make a kiss horrible. So horrible that a girl may run for the hills. The last thing you want to do is create a lasting memory of how much you sucked at kissing. Girls talk about that. It spreads like wildfire. So let’s run down the list of things you have done, are doing or might do and what you can do to avoid doing them in the future.
Problem: Bad Breath
Whether you are just bad at dental hygiene or ate a sandwich with onions for lunch, bad breath is a major mood killer and will ruin your kiss. How often does your girls breath smell bad? Rarely. This is because women know that having fresh breath is really important. It isn’t even just about being confident when you kiss, but also because your bad breath or her bad breath will be noticed by other people. If you suffer from serious bad breath, then it may be time to consult a doctor.
Solution: Dealing with bad breath breaks down into three components, none of which require you to give up your favorite foods.
1. Maintain proper dental hygiene. This means flossing, brushing and using mouthwash at least twice per day. It never hurts to keep a little bottle of mouthwash in your desk or car glove box just so you can freshen up after a meal.
2. Keep breath mints… everywhere. Chewing gum and breath mints can be your best friend when you are in a pinch. For example, on a first date. Keep a couple in our pocket so you an freshen up when your breath is more than ripe.
3. Utilize bread/crackers and water. As simple as it is, bread and crackers have the ability to soak up the extracts in foods like onion and garlic that leave your breath smelling less than pleasant. Eat a couple crackers or a slice of bread post meal to help freshen your breath. Additionally, never under estimate the power of water. Even first thing in the morning, a quick swish with water and drinking a glass is the best way to combat bad breath. It removes bacteria that is lurking quickly.
Problem: Chapped Lips
Chapped, dry lips are another instant turn off. Whether your lips are just a little dry, completely chaffed or practically bleeding – a girl is not going to want to kiss you. If you try to kiss her, she will likely wince in a slightly offensive way. Of course, no one is expecting you to break out the flavored lip balm.
Solution: Pick up some Manstix – chapstick that is exclusively for men and use it a few times per day. If you are prone to biting your lips during cold weather season, then consider tossing on some intense healing chapstick like Carmex at night and in the morning. If you work outdoors, then you will want to keep any type of good chapstick in your pocket to protect your lips from the harsh elements. It only takes a few seconds to apply every few hours and it will make your kissing experience substantially better.
Problem: Facial Hair
Do women love facial hair? Of course. Most women think facial hair is rugged and sexy. But when your facial hair is equivalent to a wire brush, it can cause her to avoid kissing you like the plague.
Solution: Girls expect men to have rough facial hair to an extent. But if your bristles are so coarse they could scrub a pot, then you need to do something about it. Look for a body wash/shampoo in one that offers extra moisturizing to soften up those hairs for a more pleasurable kissing experience.
Problem: Too Much Force
When you are kissing a girl you probably assume that you should apply a little more pressure, just so she knows that you mean it. But there’s a fine line between a little bit of pressure and practically suffocating your girlfriend. Kissing with too much force can actually hurt your girlfriend.
Solution: Treat the girl you are kissing like an egg. If you were about to kiss an egg, you would not apply a full force of pressure because you wouldn’t want it to break in your mouth. Kiss with enough force to make it extra special but not so much that she moves her head back just to experience less pressure.