We have already discussed the many things that make a kiss less than stellar in the eyes of a woman. Additionally, we have covered a few of the most common misconceptions and what you can do to help yourself from a failing situation in your relationship, but now we need to discuss the ABCs of what makes a really great kiss. This is a list that you should refer to again and again until you have it completely memorized. Practice these tips enough and they will come naturally to you in any situation.
A – Anticipation. From the moment you make contact with a woman, she is anticipating your kiss. It is just the way that women are wired. They want to talk and socialize, but they are looking for that first kiss to know that you are legitimately interested in them. Don’t give it up to easily, make her wait and anticipate your next move.
B – Body Language. Your body language during a kiss speaks volumes to her about how you feel. When you are coming in for a kiss, you should be standing or sitting in a way that guards her and makes her feel safe. By doing this you are creating an intimate atmosphere between you for the kiss, no matter where you are.
C – Cleanliness. Every girl loves a hard working man and a kiss from him is all the more sweeter. But after she has spent time and money on her hair, clothes, ect – the last thing she wants is your dirty hands to dirty her. If you are meeting your girl on the job, then be sure your hands (at least) are clean before leaning in for that kiss.
D – Dental Hygiene. As we have already mentioned, proper dental hygiene is important when it comes to kissing. It should be important to you anyways, but making sure your breath is fresh for your girl will make your kiss much more powerful. This is especially true for smokers. Only other smokers will not notice that your mouth tastes like an ashtray. Brush your teeth, chew gum, gargle mouth wash – whatever – before popping a kiss on your girls lips.
E- Eye Contact. They say that the eyes are the window to a person’s soul. Eye contact is critical during a kiss. Of course, most people naturally close their eyes when kissing. This is because it can seem a little awkward to be staring right into another person’s retinas when they are less than two inches apart. But in the moments leading up to a kiss, be sure to maintain eye contact. In fact eye contact can be exactly what you need to indicate that you are ready to dive into a kiss.
F – Facial Expressions. The smirk of your lips or twinkle in your eye will create a romantic mood that girls look for during a kiss. If you are faking it, she will know. Make sure your facial expressions are conveying the type of emotion you want in that situation. If it is a sad situation and you are offering an apologetic kiss, then do show that. Alternatively, if you are offering up a passionate-I-want-you type of kiss, then show that to her.
G – Good Vibes. Whether it is your first kiss or your 100th, you want to be putting out positive energy. Women like to associate a kiss with a happy moment. When they recall the moment to their girlfriends, they are going to focus on how they felt in that moment more than anything. Create positive energy by setting off good vibes and positive intentions during a kiss.
H – Touch her Hair/Head. Girls love it when a guy plays with her hair. This is a plain truth. When you lean in to kiss her, be sure to touch her head. This gives you a little more control and adds a slight feeling of possession to the kiss. That feeling of being wanted/needed/adored by you comes from placing your hand on the base of her head/neck or putting your fingers through her hair. When you are passionately kissing her, pulling gently on her hair will elevate those feelings of passion and lust that you are both feeling.
I – Use Your Instincts. No two girls like kissing the same way. Use your instincts to monitor her body language, verbal cues and even the sounds that she makes to determine the best way to kiss her. Unless you are a downright awful, she is not likely to correct you so it is up to you to pay attention and make the most out of every kiss.
J – Initiate with Joking. The first time you kiss a girl can be a little scary. You can start with playful jokes to help lighten the mood before you move in for the kiss. This is the type of move that you see all the time in movies where a guy and a girl are laughing and joking (to loosen up) and then suddenly they are face to face and realize there is a deep yearning for them to be kissing.